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“But You Don’t Seem Autistic”: Breaking Stereotypes & Misconceptions About Autistic Women (3/24/25 Keynote Address at Stockton University)

“But You Don’t Seem Autistic”: Breaking Stereotypes & Misconceptions About Autistic Women (3/24/25 Keynote Address at Stockton University)

This article features the full text of Bridgette Hamstead’s keynote address, “But You Don’t Seem Autistic”: Breaking Stereotypes & Misconceptions About Autistic Women, delivered at Stockton University’s Neurodiversity Education and Celebration Day. It explores the harmful effects of outdated autism stereotypes, the emotional toll of masking, and the often invisible struggles of late-diagnosed autistic women and nonbinary individuals. The keynote calls for greater recognition, representation, and belief in autistic experiences—especially those that don’t fit traditional expectations.

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Unpacking ‘Internalized Ableism’ in Neurodivergent Adults

Unpacking ‘Internalized Ableism’ in Neurodivergent Adults

Internalized ableism in autistic adults develops from years of societal pressure to conform to neurotypical norms, leading to feelings of shame, guilt, and self-doubt about natural autistic traits. Many struggle with masking, burnout, and the belief that they must push through challenges without support, often blaming themselves rather than recognizing the systemic barriers that create these difficulties. Overcoming internalized ableism involves unlearning these harmful messages, embracing self-acceptance, and recognizing that autistic ways of thinking, communicating, and existing are valid and deserving of respect.

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How Ableism Hides in ‘Well-Meaning’ Advice

How Ableism Hides in ‘Well-Meaning’ Advice

Ableism often hides in everyday conversations through well-meaning but dismissive comments like "Just try harder," "Everyone’s a little ADHD," or "You don’t seem autistic," which invalidate neurodivergent experiences and reinforce harmful stereotypes. These statements ignore the real struggles of autistic and ADHD individuals, downplay the need for accommodations, and pressure neurodivergent people to mask their differences. Challenging these subtle forms of ableism requires education, self-advocacy, and a shift in societal understanding so that neurodivergent individuals are respected and supported rather than dismissed or expected to conform.

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The Real Reason Autistic Adults Struggle with Mental Health (And It’s Not Autism)

The Real Reason Autistic Adults Struggle with Mental Health (And It’s Not Autism)

Autistic adults struggle with mental health not because of autism itself, but because of lifelong masking, systemic ableism, social isolation, and barriers to healthcare, employment, and community support. The pressure to suppress autistic traits, navigate inaccessible environments, and conform to neurotypical expectations leads to anxiety, depression, and burnout. To address this crisis, society must shift from forcing autistic people to change and instead create accessible, affirming spaces that allow them to thrive as they are.

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Who Really Profits from ‘Treating’ Autism?

Who Really Profits from ‘Treating’ Autism?

The autism industrial complex is a multi-billion-dollar system that profits from framing autism as a disorder that needs treatment, rather than a natural neurodevelopmental difference that requires acceptance and support. Industries such as ABA therapy, pharmaceuticals, and autism research prioritize compliance-based interventions, symptom management, and prevention studies while neglecting services that would genuinely improve autistic people’s quality of life. To dismantle this harmful system, funding and decision-making must shift away from non-autistic-led organizations and toward autistic-led advocacy, accessibility initiatives, and community-based support.

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Autistic People Have Always Existed—Society Just Didn’t Want to See Us

Autistic People Have Always Existed—Society Just Didn’t Want to See Us

Autistic people have always existed, but society has historically ignored, misinterpreted, or erased their presence by labeling them as eccentric, disabled, or socially deviant rather than recognizing their neurodivergence. Throughout history, autistic individuals have been revered in some cultures, institutionalized in others, and forced to conform to neurotypical standards, often at great personal cost. The modern rise in autism diagnoses does not mean autism is new, but rather that society is finally beginning to recognize and name the experiences of people who have always been here.

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The Quiet War Against Neurodivergent Parents

The Quiet War Against Neurodivergent Parents

Neurodivergent parents, particularly autistic and ADHD parents, face systemic discrimination in custody battles, child welfare cases, and interactions with medical and educational institutions due to ableist assumptions about parenting competence. Their differences in communication, executive functioning, and sensory processing are often misinterpreted as neglect or unfitness, leading to increased scrutiny, loss of parental rights, and constant fear of the system. To stop this injustice, legal, medical, and educational systems must recognize and accommodate neurodivergent parenting styles rather than punishing parents for not conforming to neurotypical expectations.

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The Dangerous Ableism in ‘Early Intervention’ and Why It’s Not What Autistic Kids Need

The Dangerous Ableism in ‘Early Intervention’ and Why It’s Not What Autistic Kids Need

Early intervention for autistic children is often framed as necessary for their success, but in reality, it is rooted in ableist assumptions that prioritize making children appear less autistic rather than supporting their natural development. Many intervention programs focus on compliance-based training, teaching children to suppress their natural behaviors instead of creating environments that accommodate their needs, leading to long-term harm, including masking, anxiety, and loss of self-trust. Instead of forcing autistic children to conform to neurotypical expectations, true support should center on affirming their neurodivergence, providing accommodations, and fostering environments that allow them to thrive as they are.

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How Schools Teach Neurodivergent Kids to Hate Themselves (And How We Can Stop It)

How Schools Teach Neurodivergent Kids to Hate Themselves (And How We Can Stop It)

The education system teaches neurodivergent children to hate themselves by forcing them to conform to neurotypical expectations, punishing them for their natural behaviors, and prioritizing compliance over real learning. Autistic and ADHD students are frequently misunderstood, disciplined for traits they cannot control, and made to feel like they are broken rather than supported in ways that align with their needs. To stop this cycle of harm, schools must adopt flexible, inclusive approaches that recognize neurodivergent strengths, provide necessary accommodations, and shift from punishment-based models to supportive, trauma-informed education.

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Special Interests’—It’s Deep Knowledge and Expertise

Special Interests’—It’s Deep Knowledge and Expertise

The term "special interest" is an infantilizing way of describing the deep knowledge and expertise that autistic people develop in their areas of passion, reinforcing the false idea that their intellectual pursuits are excessive or abnormal. While neurotypical individuals with strong interests are seen as experts, autistic people are often dismissed as quirky or obsessive, leading to societal devaluation of their intelligence and contributions. By recognizing autistic passion as expertise rather than a symptom, we can create a world that values autistic thinkers, innovators, and professionals for the strengths they bring.

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Why ‘You Don’t Look Autistic’ Is Not a Compliment

Why ‘You Don’t Look Autistic’ Is Not a Compliment

The phrase "You don’t look autistic" is harmful because it reinforces outdated stereotypes, dismisses the experiences of late-diagnosed and self-identified autistic adults, and implies that appearing non-autistic is preferable. Autism does not have a singular "look" or behavior, and many autistic individuals have spent years masking their traits to survive in a world that does not accommodate them. Instead of questioning or debating someone's autism, we should validate their experience, recognize the diversity of autistic presentations, and work toward a society that accepts all autistic people as they are.

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How the Medical Model of Disability Harms Neurodivergent People

How the Medical Model of Disability Harms Neurodivergent People

The medical model of disability harms neurodivergent people by framing autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent traits as deficits that need to be fixed rather than natural variations in human cognition. Shifting to the social model of disability recognizes that the real barriers neurodivergent individuals face come from inaccessible environments, rigid societal expectations, and a lack of accommodations rather than from their neurodivergence itself. By making workplaces, schools, medical care, public spaces, and social attitudes more inclusive, we can create a world where neurodivergent people are supported, valued, and able to thrive as their authentic selves.

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How to Recover from Years of Internalized Ableism as a Neurodivergent Person

How to Recover from Years of Internalized Ableism as a Neurodivergent Person

Internalized ableism develops from societal messages that frame neurodivergence as a problem rather than a natural variation, leading many neurodivergent individuals to mask, doubt themselves, and struggle with feelings of inadequacy. Undoing these beliefs requires unlearning harmful narratives, embracing neurodivergent strengths, setting boundaries, and allowing space for grief. Healing is an ongoing process that involves self-compassion, community support, and creating a life that honors neurodivergent needs rather than suppressing them.

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How to Recover from Years of Internalized Ableism as a Neurodivergent Person

How to Recover from Years of Internalized Ableism as a Neurodivergent Person

Recovering from internalized ableism as a neurodivergent person requires unlearning societal messages that frame neurodivergence as a flaw, embracing one's natural traits without guilt, and recognizing personal strengths beyond neurotypical standards. This process involves setting boundaries, unmasking in safe spaces, reframing self-perception, and seeking validation through neurodivergent community and support. Healing is not linear, but through self-compassion and intentional change, neurodivergent individuals can move toward a more authentic and fulfilling life.

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